Every Wednesday

Every other Wednesday, I will post a reflection on the landscape of grief. This blog isn't just for widowers. It's for everyone who grieves. I want to encourage people to share their stories and compassion with each other, build up a community of support, and help everyone understand the trauma that death brings.

Wednesday, January 27, 2016

Grief Dinners

What if you threw a potluck dinner for friends, and everyone who came was grieving? Cool, right!

Well, cool if you had lost someone, because there is so little support in the community for those who are grieving. Otherwise, you might not think it was so great.

An organization called “The Dinner Party” is gathering people who are grieving for potluck dinners. Gatherings have been hosted in cities across the country. Currently there are 140+ tables in more than 60 cities, with a few smaller towns in the mix.

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In addition to my blog, I’ve written about grief for Modern Loss, Good Men Project, Manifest-Station, Refuge in Grief, Open to Hope, The Huffington Post, and a number of other journals like Rebelle Society, and Mindful Matter. All are good places to read about grief and hear the stories of others. But nothing replaces face-to-face sharing with people who get grief.


  1. Nothing replaces face to face. Our Hospice has two monthly social gatherings, one for breakfast and one for lunch. People seem to get attached to one of the groups and stay a long time. There is also an active Death Cafe group in Ithaca.

    I didn't know about these potluck dinners until reading about them here. I'm glad there are these options for younger people. By the time we're in our mid 60s or older, there are many friends grieving for children, parents, and spouses, friends grieving for lost health, and friends grieving for lost homes and jobs. These people are part of the social scene in my world. I know that's unusual, and I'm grateful.

  2. You're right, Elaine. There are groups for older people, as well as friends who have lost someone or something dear to them. I'm glad there are the Dinner Parties for young adults, as well as online journals like Modern Loss. Yet no matter our age, we're all learning how to talk intelligently and emotionally about grief.