Every Wednesday

Every other Wednesday, I will post a reflection on the entire landscape of grief. This blog isn't just for widowers. It's for everyone who grieves. I want to encourage people to share their stories and compassion with each other, build up a community of support, and help those who have never grieved understand the trauma that death brings.

Tuesday, December 9, 2014

The Grief Cafe

When a loved one dies, survivors join the Club. There are no dues and only one initiation rite, which we’ve already gone through. A glance in the eyes is enough to tell who is a member. But to participate in the Grief Café, you have to open the door.

It doesn’t matter who died or under what circumstances, whether it was our spouse, parent, sibling, child, or stillborn infant. We loved them and our hearts are broken.

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  1. Card-carrying member since 2009. Thanks for this wonderful post.

  2. Yes, thank you, Mark. It's a powerful image and you've worked with it so well. Beautiful writing. I'm sharing it on my FB author page.

    1. Thank you, Elaine, and thank you for sharing it.

  3. Mark, nice to make your acquaintance, even under these grief circumstances. The motto I use for the work I do on healing is "We are neighbors in grief and allies in healing." Thanks for setting a place at the table for those who want to connect, share, grow, and heal...

    Yours in hope, healing, and happiness...

    ~Annah Elizabeth