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Monday, July 12, 2010

There Isn't Much Time


April 7

After the death of a loved one, after the shock of death has worn off and we begin to move forward again, we may not feel ready to do so. We may not even know what direction to head. Yet we take our first tentative step and the world doesn’t collapse. It goes on as if nothing had happened.
We take a second step, and we don’t self-destruct. But we learn something about ourselves.

We take a third step and begin to sense how we are going to survive grief in a world that has radically changed. A forth step and our journey to a new life begins.

In actuality, there are hundreds and thousands of steps we take as we test the water and move from the shallow end of the pool to the deep. Forward and back, and forward again.

Someone in Wales wrote: “Life is short. There isn’t much time to gladden the hearts of those who travel with us. So be quick to love, and make haste to be kind.”

No matter how long we were together with the people we loved, it wasn’t long enough to love them as they deserved.

There isn’t enough time to do everything good and noble that we want. But there’s always enough time to be kind to someone in need.


We are not here to achieve personal glory. We’re here to learn how to love and how to be kind.

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