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Every Wednesday, I will post something about grief. Sometimes it will be a reflection on an aspect of grief’s landscape. Now and then I will share from my own journey of grief, because in the sharing of our stories we find strength and build a community of people that support one another. To follow, please leave your email address.

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Thursday, February 11, 2016

Valentine For Grief


A Valentine for Grief.
My essay at the Huffington Post. 


4 comments:

  1. Thank you for that, Mark. I share many of the same emotions having lost my partner of 27 years to cancer six months ago. Judy was only 61. Gradually my roller coaster loop is fading. I had to chuckle, as one of our favorite artists has always been Tom Waits. A welcome grin on a rough day for me. She also loved the lyrics from Robert Hunter's "Ripple" (Grateful Dead) "when there is no pebble tossed.nor wind to blow". Her spirit is ever present. I look forward to following your blog.

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    1. Thank you, Peter. Waits is the voice I imagine hearing in Grief's cafe late at night. The long meditative songs of the Grateful Dead would fit well, too. Six months ago and cancer. I'm sorry, Peter. That's too young. And probably so near the time of stepping away from work to do what you both were waiting to do together. Evelyn and I were together 18 years. If there is something you've been wondering about but do not see addressed on the blog, send me a note and I'll see about writing about it. Thank you for letting me know you liked the post.

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  2. Today.....he will have been gone for almost four years on May 10th. Fifty-one years together. Sobbing is no more, but tears still arrive at unexpected moments.

    Yesterday, my 73rd birthday. He always found the most perfect card. He wasn't much good at picking out gifts but Oh My his cards. I spent the day at a retreat with quilting friends, it was a good day but I've missed three years of Valentine and birthday cards. Tiny tears seep through....

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    1. Oh Susan, to have your birthday and Valentine's Day so close together! So hard, I imagine, right now, remembering what had been a celebration of you and a celebration of your love with your husband. Three years without his cards for either occasion! I'm not surprised there are tears. Tears of sadness and loss, and tears for those good memories of joy. I have a quilt made by a friend, and I treasure it because it was crafted with love. She gathered together worn pieces of the past and creating something that keeps me warm when it feels too cold at home. Thank you for sharing your words.

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